tying into your awareness, I invite you to catch yourself when you say,
"Don't do that."
to another (verbally or silently)
or to yourself.
pay attention to those words.
you can't tell someone what to do or think - unless they really want to do it in the first place, or you use coerision. In the case you coerce, there is no learning process being acknowledged...in them...or you. Expect them to do it again, or expect you will get frustrated again.
Q: how can you learn to honor the learning process in your relationships?